Want to know if you're ready to bond with a soul mate? Answer the following questionnaire from Sheila Sharpe, Psychotherapist and author of The Ways We Love: A Developmental Approach to Treating Couples (Guilford). If you have difficulty with most of these questions — you may need counseling.

Can You:

1. Merge — get close for long periods without sex?
   
   
2. Accept — let go of rigid characteristics, be open to diverse partners and possibilities?
   
   
3. Give and receive — take a compliment, or graciously offer an extensive gift?
   
   
4. Let go — are you controlling, or obsessed with being psycologically superior?
   
   
5. Be a happy loser — are you always competing?
   
   
6. Take second place — do you always have to come before the dog, his kids, his parents, and his job?
   
   
7. Express anger appropriately — can you handle having your feelings hurt without giving in to an outburst or simmering with resentment?
   
   
8. Touch — are you comfortable with your body? Able to touch and be touched, and be sexual?